Snips

When we own our own power to take care of ourselves-set a boundary, say no, change an old pattern-we may get flack from some people. That's okay. We don't have to let their reactions control us, stop us, or influence our decision to take care of ourselves. We don't have to control their reactions to our process of self-care. That is not our responsibility.
People will react when we do things differently or take assertive action to nurture ourselves, particularly if our decision in some way affects them. Let them have their feelings. Let them have their reactions. But continue on your course anyway.
If people are used to us behaving in a certain way, they'll attempt to convince us to stay that way to avoid changing the system. If people are used to us saying yes all the time, they may start mumbling and murmuring when we say no. If people are used to us taking care of their responsibilities, feelings, and problems, they may give us some flack when we stop. That's normal.
We can learn to live with a little flack in the name of healthy self-care. Not abuse mind you. Flack.
If people are used to controlling us through guilt, and badgering, they may intensify their efforts when we change and refuse to be controlled. That's okay. That's flack too. We don't have to let flack pull us back into old ways if we've decided we want and need change. We don't have to react to flack or give it much attention. It doesn't deserve it. It will die down.
Today , I will disregard any flack I receive for changing my behaviors or making other efforts to be myself.
© Melody Beattie

It's easy to feel grateful when we receive a raise, meet the love of our life or watch our children succeed, but spiritual gratitude is not circumstantial. It arises from a true knowing that God is our Source. We can feel thankful for every day, even in the middle of life's challenges.
Mary Manin Morrissey


AA Thought of the Day / All A.A. progress can be reckoned in terms of just two words: humility and responsibility. Our whole spiritual development can be accurately measured by our degree of adherence to these magnificent standards. / As Bill Sees It, p. 271


Why must we think to be one thing and remain that for eternity? We are not as
permanently solid as we like to think we are. How rigid. Security in constancy is a fallacy that hurts more than helps us. We are fluid beings: we grow and flow into and out of, constantly. Allow the unknown a welcome spot near your hearth. Pay homage to a new idea. Let two contrasting points of view settle in, and disregard all insistence from anxiety to invite itself along.
See what your soul wears in its leisure time. It might be just what you've been
searching for.
©Stella Savoie

Our lifetimes are spent searching for the center of the maze - the center of ourselves. Much of that time we spend running frantically around the periphery of self, not realizing that the hedges we can't see over and that keep us hemmed in, are self made. They are constructs of the mind. We're not aware that if we want to get to the center, we have to sometimes question the way the arrows are pointing.
Rich Rahn


Healthy relationship partners delight in seeing each other's happiness and excitement. They feel stimulated and intrigued by their partner's growing knowledge and confidence. They find each other's new experiences fascinating, and they encourage each other's continued growth. In a healthy relationship, the two partners promote the development of each other's potential.
Helene C. Parker / Doreen L. Virtue

"Remember for just one minute of the day, it would be best to try looking upon yourself more as God does, for She knows your true royal nature."
Hafiz

"How does one become a butterfly," she asked pensively. "You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar."
Trina Paulus

Live out of your imagination, not your history.
Stephen Covey