You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care
of yourself. Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice.
How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves.
When someone tells us about a problem, what is our reaction? Do we believe we need to solve it for the person? Do we believe that that person's future rests on our ability to advise him or her? That's standing on shaky ground - not the stuff of which consciousness is made.
When someone is struggling through a feeling, or a morass of feelings, what is our reaction? That the person will never survive that experience? That it's not okay for someone to feel? That he or she will never get through this intact?
When a person is faced with the task of assuming responsibility for their life and behaviors, what is our response? That the person can't do that? I must do it myself to save him or her from dissipating into ashes? From crumbling? From failing?
What is our reaction to ourselves when we encounter a problem, a feeling, or when we face the prospect of assuming responsibility for ourselves? Do we believe in others and ourselves? Do we give power to people - including ourselves - and their abilities? Or do we give the power to the problem, the feeling, or the irresponsibility?
We can learn to check ourselves out. We can learn to think, and consider our response, before we respond. "I'm sorry you're having that problem. I know you can figure out a solution. Sounds like you've got some feelings going on. I know you'll work through them and come out on the other side."
Each of us is responsible for ourselves. That does not mean we don't care. It does not mean a cold, calculated withdrawal of our support from others. It means we learn to love and support people in ways that work. It means we learn to love and support ourselves in ways that work. It means that we connect with friends who love and support us in ways that work.
To believe in people, to believe in each persons inherent ability to think, feel, solve problems, and take care of themselves is a great gift we can give and receive from others.
Today, I will strive to give and receive support that is pure and empowering. I will work at believing in myself and others - and our mutual abilities to be competent at dealing with feelings, solving problems, and taking responsibility for ourselves.
Melody Beattie ©
The Tao Te Ching says, "When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need." Have you ever struggled to find work or love, only to find them after you have given up? This is the paradox of letting go. Let go, in order to achieve. Letting go is God's law.
Mary Manin Morrissey
AA Thought of the Day / Once we have placed the key of willingness in the lock and have the door ever so slightly open, we find that we can always open it some more. / 12 & 12, p. 35
As we allow ourselves to realize we are wounded, to be aware of the pain and
go deeper and deeper to its source, we reach deep into the well of our being
to release old hurts, old poisons. That's why we embrace pain. It's not
because we love the fact that it hurts. Nobody likes to hurt. But we choose
to embrace pain because it's a piercing, an opening of a wound that allows
the hurtful poison to be released. Then we can let it heal.
Marilyn C. Barrick
In this moment, remember that you are on this earth for a purpose, and
that purpose is to be of service. You have your own unique skills and
abilities to offer in being of service. As you practice joyful service, your
prosperity will increase.
© Patricia J. Crane
The essence of all religions is love, compassion, and tolerance. Kindness is my true religion. The clear proof of a person's love of God is if that person genuinely shows love to fellow human beings.
The Dalai Lama
The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position.
Leo Buscaglia
What looks like a loss may be the very event which is subsequently responsible for helping to produce the major achievement of your life.
Srully D. Blotnick
Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.
William Jennings Bryan
of yourself. Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice.
How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves.
When someone tells us about a problem, what is our reaction? Do we believe we need to solve it for the person? Do we believe that that person's future rests on our ability to advise him or her? That's standing on shaky ground - not the stuff of which consciousness is made.
When someone is struggling through a feeling, or a morass of feelings, what is our reaction? That the person will never survive that experience? That it's not okay for someone to feel? That he or she will never get through this intact?
When a person is faced with the task of assuming responsibility for their life and behaviors, what is our response? That the person can't do that? I must do it myself to save him or her from dissipating into ashes? From crumbling? From failing?
What is our reaction to ourselves when we encounter a problem, a feeling, or when we face the prospect of assuming responsibility for ourselves? Do we believe in others and ourselves? Do we give power to people - including ourselves - and their abilities? Or do we give the power to the problem, the feeling, or the irresponsibility?
We can learn to check ourselves out. We can learn to think, and consider our response, before we respond. "I'm sorry you're having that problem. I know you can figure out a solution. Sounds like you've got some feelings going on. I know you'll work through them and come out on the other side."
Each of us is responsible for ourselves. That does not mean we don't care. It does not mean a cold, calculated withdrawal of our support from others. It means we learn to love and support people in ways that work. It means we learn to love and support ourselves in ways that work. It means that we connect with friends who love and support us in ways that work.
To believe in people, to believe in each persons inherent ability to think, feel, solve problems, and take care of themselves is a great gift we can give and receive from others.
Today, I will strive to give and receive support that is pure and empowering. I will work at believing in myself and others - and our mutual abilities to be competent at dealing with feelings, solving problems, and taking responsibility for ourselves.
Melody Beattie ©
The Tao Te Ching says, "When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need." Have you ever struggled to find work or love, only to find them after you have given up? This is the paradox of letting go. Let go, in order to achieve. Letting go is God's law.
Mary Manin Morrissey
AA Thought of the Day / Once we have placed the key of willingness in the lock and have the door ever so slightly open, we find that we can always open it some more. / 12 & 12, p. 35
As we allow ourselves to realize we are wounded, to be aware of the pain and
go deeper and deeper to its source, we reach deep into the well of our being
to release old hurts, old poisons. That's why we embrace pain. It's not
because we love the fact that it hurts. Nobody likes to hurt. But we choose
to embrace pain because it's a piercing, an opening of a wound that allows
the hurtful poison to be released. Then we can let it heal.
Marilyn C. Barrick
In this moment, remember that you are on this earth for a purpose, and
that purpose is to be of service. You have your own unique skills and
abilities to offer in being of service. As you practice joyful service, your
prosperity will increase.
© Patricia J. Crane
The essence of all religions is love, compassion, and tolerance. Kindness is my true religion. The clear proof of a person's love of God is if that person genuinely shows love to fellow human beings.
The Dalai Lama
The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position.
Leo Buscaglia
What looks like a loss may be the very event which is subsequently responsible for helping to produce the major achievement of your life.
Srully D. Blotnick
Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.
William Jennings Bryan
1 comment:
I love Leo's writings! He's definitely not forgotten!
Being me, is what I do best. :)
How are you? I haven't had a chance to really visit with you. hugs!
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