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Have you ever been around people pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety producing.People-pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love and attention we deserved. We may not have been given permission to please ourselves, to trust ourselves, and to choose a course of action that demonstrated self-trust.People pleasing can be overt or covert. We may run around fussing over others, chattering a mile a minute when what we are really saying is, "I hope I'm pleasing you." Or, we may be more covert, quietly going through life making important decisions based on pleasing others.Taking other people's wants and needs into consideration is an important part of our relationships. We have responsibilities to friends and family and employers. We have a strong inner responsibility to be loving and caring. But, people pleasing backfires. Not only do others get annoyed with us, we often get annoyed when our efforts to please do not work as we planned. The most comfortable people to be around are those who are considerate of others but ultimately please themselves.Help me, God, work through my fears and begin to please myself. ~ Melody Beattie ©

The spiritual journey, the path of recovery and personal growth, is a detoxification process in which we bring up and out the negative beliefs we have carried with us from the past and that now poison the present. ~ Marianne Williamson

AA Thought of the Day / ...there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet. / AA, p. 25

People are often illogical, unreasonable and self centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win false friends, and some true enemies. Be successful anyway. If you are honest and frank people may cheat you. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building someone may destroy overnight. Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness others may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today people will often forget tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give the world the best you have anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and god, it was never between you and them, anyway... ~ Author Unknown

Many people convince themselves that they "have to" know so much, do so much, and be capable of so much. Seeing life as a series of "have to's" can be destructive. In reality, we don't have to do anything. On the contrary, we choose to do everything. If, in fact, you were governed by "have to's," you would be renouncing all responsibility for your life. Taking full responsibility for your existence on Earth gives you the key to recognizing your freedom of choice.
~ Randi B. Noyes

Forgiveness is not an event, but rather, it is a process in healing; for when we forgive, we lose all emotional attachment to the person and the circumstance. When we do this, we free ourselves to receive more goodness in our lives ~ Bobbie Gonder

"Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass on a summer day listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is hardly a waste of time." ~ Sir J. Lubbock

"Work is not always required... there is such a thing as sacred idleness, the cultivation of which is now fearfully neglected." ~ George MacDonald

Instead of thinking of the problem, think of the solution. ~ Ernest Holmes