From a victim state-of-mind we become needy. Neediness is a form of negative dependency that brings up all kinds of negative emotions such as resentment, jealousy, and anger. Not knowing how to nurture ourselves and take care of ourselves emotionally, we depend on others to do so. When they fail to do so, we rage. And oddly enough, even when they do so, we rage even more. Why? Because we know deep inside that our emotional health is not dependent on others, but ourselves. We know that our strength to move beyond the victim state comes from within. Deep inside we know that absolutely no one can have power over us unless we allow it.
Susan Ann Darley
You've got to sing like you don't need the money. Love like you'll never get hurt. Dance like there's nobody watching. It's got to come from the heart if you want it to work.
Susanna Clark and Richard Leigh
"Choice is destiny's soul mate."
Sarah Ban Breathnach
Living From the Heart
Always on my Desk
Glimpes of the Peak
2 comments:
Interesting to come read this after I posted on relationships. While I believe that I can take care of myself, my needs, desires.. it is? a basic instinct to want to share, to be close to another.. which involves communication.
Love and being loving are the basis which in a large part is communication and accepting unconditionally the other person just as they are. To do that, one needs to be comfortable in their own skin and love themselves for who they "is". Once that has been accomplished then one has love to give away to another. Otherwise one enters into a world of "lacking" and always wanting more.
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